I love the ignore option here. Thank you, HDC. ::cool::

I don't need to run drills. I live very comfortably right now. I did do a fair share of survival camping though... lots of fun.

I'll be able to use extreme violence, without fear of the law! ::smile::

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Thanks for reminding me

My Halloween party costume for this year.

http://www.horror.com/forum/picture....pictureid=2412

That looks splendid Martha! Gotta love the detail and color.

I'm ready for the Holiday. Hurry Halloween!

I used to be pretty death rock for years. Dressing up for Halloween's so blah to me now. Trick 'r treating as a kid had a kind of mystical feel to it. Now its just a lot of people in mediocre costumes getting drunk at parties or dance clubs/bars. I am not saying that's wrong or right or what have you. Every Halloween I want to do something really unnerving, but not in a life risking way, but in a dark woods or abandoned factory seance kind of way. But alas, no one to try with.

Unsure of what you mean. Girls/women being manipulated, abused, etc. by their fathers turning them into killers?

I'd love to see this hit the courts and Currys try to prove the existence of God!

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti....html#comments

BOSS - I friggin love your Avatar.

:) Yeah me too, alas its not my art.

Well that's something I'd watch for sure, but I could probably find a couple of movies like that from the folks at lifetime movie network. Specifically I would just like to see more father/daughter or even father/son story lines in general, in the horror genre. It's usually the mother that's being blamed, or the mother who is trying to save her child,The Babadook, The Exorcist, etc. Not always though, but a lot of the time. I just find this curious.

The psychologist within me would love to explore these preferences.

There's The Road, but I wouldn't say its explicitly horror. The film House has a father trying to save his son. In The Shining the father is the culprit though the mother does some saving. I haven't seen it, but there's also Maggie. The father caring for his daughter slowly becoming a zombie. The remake of Thirteen Ghosts has a father saving both son and daughter.

I've seen all of these except Maggie. I googled it & it sounds quite interesting. I like the zombie angle too, so I'll check it out. Merci.

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Yeah, I've definitely seen it circulate. It just makes me smile with delight every time you post. mwahaha




And now for my random thought of the day: Anyone on here do online dating? I've been using various online sites since June and it's exhausting.

I do. But without much effort. I imagine for women its very exhausting. From what I hear/read hetero women get loads of messages every day and its hard to sift through them. As well as vulgar sexual suggestions, straight couples wanting another women in bed, and so on.
I stopped sending messages due to lack of responses. The ones I get are from people with very little in common. Sort of blase' about it now. The women I'm interested in are very very few. I've tried a few sites that target goths and those have little activity and mostly 'weekend warriors' or metal heads. Tried geek2geek too and it is also mostly dead.
I think most dating websites need to have an option for women to only receives messages from men they themselves have categorized as possibilities while they're looking at profiles.

Can't help you with that. Never done it. Not interested in dating anymore. Haven't had a date since 2001.

Oh were you looking to discuss why and not looking for recommendations? Apologies if I misunderstood. As for why, I think that'd be very very hard. I would guess we'd need statistics to start. I fairly certain most directors are white men, but not if a director has kids, how they were raised as children, what their situation is like with their partner, etc.

Where are you located? Coffee Meets Bagel attempts to do that (you can only message each other if you "like" each other) but its model - a "Bagel a day" (I kid you not) makes it even more sloooooooooooooow.

Not to return to the "Simple Curiosity Pole," but how do you identify? I've historically checked off "Bi Female" but it seems to raise more questions than anything else so I've recently updated to "heteroflexible" (ugh - All because I just don't identify as straight - This is going to sound wishy washy but I had the labeling honestly).

I've found that when I first join sites, I get a flurry of messages (mostly poorly spelled with no grammar or just a "Hi how r u?" as opposed to filthy stuff - I almost prefer the filthy stuff sometimes because it's typically more inventive than "Hi i saw ur profile u seem neet wuts ur name do u have kik?") but tend to taper off (except Plenty of Fish which really just seems to hit the bottom of the barrel - Apologies in advance to my friends who met on there - oops - heh heh).

I've had the most luck with Tinder and OK Cupid. The former, well, I had to take care of some things (heh) and with the latter I find more of the quirky, nerdy guys that I tend to lean to. I have a subscription to Match, which I should cancel because I think the demographic is more for wholesome, vanilla, Christian folks looking to get married and have kids. Not me, nope.

Have you tried Reddit? It's been recommended to me because you get kinda clever weirdos... My issue though is that Yes I want a nerdy guy (tattoos and hipster glasses yes yes yes yes please) but they absolutely have to have their shit together, which surprisingly is harder to find than one would hope.

I had a pretty promising first and second date with a bloke I met last week - Seems nice and I'm desperately trying NOT to become a STAGE 5 CLINGER - Not that easy. I can be fairly intense when I meet someone, romantically or otherwise, and I'm starting to realize that that's not necessarily the best approach...

Damn, girl. Well I don't blame you. It's exhausting. Let's go drink wine and play with our cats.

I'm in Brooklyn. I don't think a cell phone application for dating is something for me. Ty though.

I do not think about my gender identification too much. I don't feel I'm a man or woman or androgynous. I recognize my body is male, I'm attracted to women, but that's about it. On websites I use man/male because it helps other people in identifying me as a gender/sex they're attracted to. I guess I identify as straight in regards to gender, but not sex. Shrug. Though I do find connection in a Propaghandi song lyric(forget which one) where the singer says "and I refuse to 'be a man." I definitely can relate people trying to enforce me to act a certain way according to sex.

okcupid seems to be filled with mostly 'normal' folks. Its free, but mostly women i'm not interested in. Some are very attractive, but not much in common. I've never been interested in any of the sites for casual sex. I want emotional/thought and other stuff before having sex with someone. Not a judgement on you, or that a judgement is valid anyway.

I've been tangentially connected to to reddit through a boardgame reddit group, but I've stopped playing most board games and never connected with the people that went to them.

Stage 5 clinger? What is that? Intense. In my experience girls are afraid of men who are too intense fairly fast or afraid of their own feelings if they're intense and thus run away from them.

Yeah, I totally get that. I'm not offended at all. And where I am now, I'm definitely looking for something more meaningful. I never thought I'd be interested in Tinder-ing (and my friends either make fun of me or just awkwardly look away when I mention it - hahaha) but my situation was that a super long-term relationship ended in March and I went through a bit of a dry spell, moved to a new place and downloaded the app in June. It was good for what I needed at the time but I don't use it anymore.


heehee - Stage 5 Clinger:

Then they would cease to be ironic... you're looking for a unicorn.

Hold up Hold up! Waitaminute!!!
Chrono I thought you just got married not too long ago and Hammer...not since '01!!?? what tha??
I live out in the sticks and the selection is very very very limited.... unless hill people are yer thing....
And come on Boss I know you got game so come on Man...
Everybody's lookin' fer the same thing if ya know what I mean....

So get out there and meet somebody face ta face....none of that online stuff ya aint gonna find somebody on the real side that way...

Hetroflexible::big grin::That's a term fer my wife but that's another story....
Good luck out there Y'all I know it can be rough but just stay confident I really do believe that there is someone fer everybody....

::big grin::
I don't have to worry about finding someone.
I plan on being a bachelor.

Damnit. You can't be ironic AND have your shit together??

Good memory! Yeah, we were together for 8 years and married for a year and a half of that (married Nov. 1, 2013!) buuuuuuuuuuuut in March of this year he had a psychotic break and lost it. Good times.

BRING ON THE SINGLE MEN!! ::wink::

I am one of those people that looks like they are in there twenties when they are actually fifteen. I can't think of one time when I have walked by a girl that is in college without her sighing.
I wish they would stop that. Makes me blush.

Anyone else dislike the 'let's get coffee' date thing?

Why?

I thought coffee was an aphrodisiac......

I think Boss is asking, if anyone hates the " lets get coffee " date thing, he'd like to get coffee and talk about it. Like a date.::embarrassment::

Why don't we discuss it over coffee?

I avoid having relationships altogether. Being single, I've found out lots about myself, information I wouldn't have learned if I was in a relationship.

Why? Because I'd be too busy trying to work out what the hell she needs. And then it leads to imprisonment - children and marriage.

I won't allow myself to be manipulated by any women, even if she's drop dead gorgeous.

Nowadays, lots of people prefer the single life and those that do get married, many decide to keep their money separate, sometimes secreted from their other.

W-H-A-T?!?

Perhaps I missed this somehow if you already mentioned it before already on FB or here but really sorry to hear that Chrono, as I always thought you two were a picture-perfect couple. Anyway, hope & pray all the best for you, CG...after all, no matter how much you love that damn Grave Encounters, you're still a wonderful girl. So keep up the awesomeness!! ::cool::

So much to learn about my fellow HDC'rs! Sometimes it's hard to see people that you communicate with solely on a screen as complete, ya know? "Real"?

Reading about your relationships, successful and failed, hearing about dating efforts and the frustration inherent, finding out personal things about the kind of folks you all are...it actually feels sweet.

I've only been here a few months but it's been very nice getting to know you all.

I know I don't post that much - but Repo'd, I reflect the sentiment.
I think you're one of the best new (new to me...I've been here under this and another alias for like, a decade? not sure if there's a count) posters I've seen in this place in some time.
I also feel like deadbeatatdawn is a pretty good addition to the place.

Right now I'm a little lit, and I'm just here doing my internet rounds for the night...you would think my thoughts would be a bit more random at this point in time,
but nope.

(Wolf Whistle!)